Friday, February 3, 2012

I need a spanking, please

It was Thursday night... reassurance night.  This would be only our second one since we have had our plan.  Just in case you haven't kept up recently, S and I have a plan, and that is that I am to say on Monday and Thursday evenings "it's time" and he will then remember that we are to have a reassurance meeting.  Him reassuring me that he loves me, cares for me, is taking care of me by taking me in hand and warming my behind.

Thankfully this lifestyle is as each couple that practices it. Some might say that it's not spontaneous enough and that reassurance spankings should not be scheduled so rigidly, that the same days every week is not how it should be set up.  We are what I refer to as "regular kids".  We (S and I and our kids for that matter) do so much better when we get on a schedule.  We go to church on Sundays and Wednesday... Mondays and Thursday evenings are laundry night...Tuesday and Friday nights are quiet and most generally don't have anything planned and Saturdays we run and run and run.  This is just general and it's not to say that we can't bend but for the most part we like boring!  Boring for some... comfortable for us.

So we schedule my spankings and I'm ok with that.  We are bendable in the fact maybe someday they won't be on M & Th.... for now we are doing well.  I, at some point in the evening, am to say "it's time" and that ques S that we need to meet later in the evening.  One of the reasons that I am ok with reminding him, at least for now is because he is still on sick leave, and I do have to say that when you stay home and don't have a regular routine, you can actually forget what day it is!

Last night we had our meeting and I have to say that he is definitely getting back into the swing of things (pardon the pun! ;-))  It wasn't a long spank, after all it is a reassurance/maintenance spanking and it isn't meant to take me to tears or anything... but I have to say Wow....   I'm not sore this morning, but he definitely made an impact last night!!  WWoooHoo! ;o)

I know I'm not the only one who's man isn't as consistent as we would like.... some can't read our minds like we would like them too...  It isn't one of the most comfortable things in the world, to ask for what you need... but it is way more comfortable than dealing with our emotions that we get when we don't get the spanking that we have coming!!  I almost didn't remind S last night.  I don't know if he would have remembered or not.  I wasn't sure I "needed" one... but then I ran through my mind how I would feel if I had that spanking vs not having it.  If I swallowed my pride and asked for my spanking by reminding him, my behind and my heart would both be warm.... and we'd probably have some hot play time later.  If, however I didn't remind him I would feel forgotten, not taken care of, and if we did have intimate time later if would probably be out of obligation instead of being hot for my husband.

While it's going to take some getting used to, asking S to take care of me is going to be far easier on this ole' gal than the roller coaster of emotions that I would go through if I didn't.

Next, I'll have to ask him to join my blog!! **huge grin**

12 comments:

  1. Woo-hoo! Good for you Mikki! You're right, it's not easy to ask, but it's better than dealing with all the emotions that crop up when it doesn't happen. Does S not know about your blog? (I can't keep track of who's hubby does and who's doesn't, lol)

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    1. Yes... S does know about my blog and used to read it but since I took my break when my computer was in the hospital, he got out of the habit. I keep asking him if he has read my blog yet... still no. I would like him to Join it by being a follower... it's just something that I'd like him to do... really not a big deal though... I have way bigger fish to fry, if you know what I mean!! LOL

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  2. I'm so glad your code word is working for you.

    Like you guys, boring for us is also comfortable. As far as forgetting days, I have started writing things down and then forget to look at the calendar. Oh well...

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    1. Oh honey... I so know... I try writing things down and then I forget where I write them down at! LOL

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  3. :)) I heard every word of your post Mikki. And I agreed with it all. Here's to more "it's times" :)
    Ps: I've just txt Mitch to ask if he's looked at my blog lately. I'm chewing my fingers in frustration at myself lol because I don't think that was quite blatant enough!! Arghhhhh.

    Dee x

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    1. Good, because I have to say that this is the first post that I can say that I had someone in mind when writing it! You and I seem to be going through the same wonderful world... and a wanted to share with you how this has helped me!

      You know, your probably right, possibly not blatant enough. But I want to offer that at least if he reads your blog, you have a jumping off place where a conversation can start!! ((hugs))

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  4. We went for a definite schedule too. We tried doing maintenance when he thought I needed it, but it tended to wait too long and then it ended up being way more of a showdown than either of us wanted. So...we schedule Sundays and Thursdays and like you, are flexible.

    Glad it's working Mikki...and maybe sometimes you won't even need to use your code word.

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    1. I'm so glad to hear that it's working for you too! At least that way we are both on the same page!!

      Yeah, maybe someday I won't have to remind him but I'm not holding my breath. I have a very absent minded guy! LOL

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  5. I would hate to actually ASK Davey...I find subtle ways of getting what I want, like being a right royal beast till he finally decides to spank me!!!! It is then usually much harsher than it would have needed to be, but for me, it's better than asking outright!!! But, I am a stubborn wotsit! I am so glad this is working for you guys. xxxxxx

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  6. Mikki--you're absolutely correct. There is no right or wrong way to do this, there's just what works for you and your spanking partner, and anybody who tries to tell you differently....

    Dr. Ken

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  7. It's good to hear that he's recovered enough to give you what you need and what you both need for your marriage!

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