Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Follow through ROCKS!!

OMGoodness.... I think I have a man who is gonna be following through!!! I'm so excited about that!!

We were on our way home from town, the kids were jabbering... S was teasing them by saying that when we got home that it was time for bed. I laughing said I would go... LOL Then it dawned on me... I would use code.

I said..."I think it's time".... A couple of posts back we decided to make a plan... I would be getting reassurance spankings on Monday and Thursday nights and the plan also included that if he forgot I was to remind him by saying "it's time".  I wasn't sure at the time how I was going to be able to make myself say it without feeling totally stupid....

"I know it's time" he says in a bit of a softer voice.


I was so proud... he remembered.

I just can't believe that my head is in a place where I'm excited about my behind being spanked... sometimes I have a hard time getting my head wrapped around that concept but it's true.  I do not enjoy the spanking, per say.  It hurts and I'm not that into pain.  It's even a bit embarrassing due to the fact that the room that we use to not be found or heard by sleeping children is not our bedroom.  In our room, exposing my behind to my husband is not a new or weird thing.  But to drop my drawers and bend over in a room that is not used for that.... well I guess it's a bit humiliating,  which I guess kinda adds to the whole equation.  I had chosen a different room... a bit smaller, maybe a bit more intimate albeit not our room but IMO a bit more comfortable.  Guess when your getting a spanking comfort is not really on the list of requirements.  And since I'm not the one in charge....

I had decided that I was going to count my swats.... not out loud for him but I guess for me.  You know you gotta have some sort of measuring stick so you can compare to what others say they get.  I  know I'm a weenie and don't know that I would ever be interested in getting a caning...  but last night was my first spanking in what seems like a very long time so I wasn't looking for a very long spanking ... or one with several implements.  I got 14 swats with  his hand..... I needed my HOH to take me in hand and follow through and spank me to remind me that we are doing ttwd... and that is exactly what I got!! WWoohhoo!

He's the man... and he is my man... and I love him very much!!  I felt taken care of.  I know that spanking me and leading me does not come naturally to him.  If it were up to him he would probably like to just be in the back ground like his own dad.... but we pull him to the fore front.  When the kids naturally come to me wanting permission to do something.... I try to remember to have them ask their Dad.  It hasn't always been that way but I think he is enjoying the feeling of leading a bit more every time he is asked.  I see him growing into his leadership role every day and couldn't be more proud!!

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  1. Yea! I hope this gives him lots of confidence in leading because it's so easy to see how much you love it. Go S!

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    1. I hope it does too... and I hope he realizes just how wonderful he is doing!!! I'm his biggest fan!!

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  2. Woo-hoo! His confidence is growing! Pretty soon I bet you'll be writing a post about being careful what you ask/wish for! ;)

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    1. Oh, I'm sure I will be too... but I'm sure it will be a happy post!! *giggling*

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  3. It sounds like things are working out for you. His confidence will continue to grow with your nurturing.

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    1. I think you are right... I felt for a long time that if I directed him in ttwd that it would be topping from the bottom... but I have been taking care of him for almost 17 years, why would I think this part of our life would be any different??!!

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  4. Awesome communication! Glad for you- and yes, be careful what you wish for :)

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    1. Oh, I know... I thought about that the other day!!

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  5. You sound so happy, Mikki! :)

    I like that you have worked out a code! And isn't it great to be reassured that S WILL follow through? So happy for you!

    Fondly. Sky

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    1. yeah, I hated to have to come out and ask... fought it hard!!!

      I am doing well, thanks!

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  6. Brilliant Mikki :)) A great, quite subtle way to remind him without being tooooo excruciating. I can actually hear the smile in your post lol :) He may not be feeling totally natural about it just now, but the more you do something........... :)

    Dee x

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  7. *grinning* Thank you so much for your kind words!! You are so right about the more you do something!! Also... I try really hard to be "good" and he just loves my new dispositions!! Even the kids notice!! Life is good when you have someone you love guiding you!! ((hugs))

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