Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Long time no see!!!!

Hey everybody!!  I can't believe that it has taken so long for me to post... life has been crazy.. so much to do so little time to post!!!  Anyway... I've missed you all terribly... I keep meaning to take a few minutes to post... but it seemed when I had a minute or two, I wasn't impressed with how things were going and didn't really want to get on here and whine.... but here I am now... I'll try to get ya'll caught up! lol

My computer did get fixed... it took some doin' buy finally she is back home where she needs to be!! ;o)  Hopefully spyware won't be a problem again!!

Our kids... Our 13yo son is still doing well... as well as teens can be! LOL  Our 8yo daughter is doing well... she is the bubbly in our family.  I have been meaning to have the "talk" with her... we have always been very open, she knows she can ask any question and I will talk to her about anything... well yesterday I was helping her after her shower (she asked, it's not required) she lifted her arms and OMGoodness, she had armpit hair!!  AAuugghhhh!!!  It just seems like 8 is a bit early for that!!!  So... I guess I'm going to get her a care package together and we are going to have a girl time date.  I'm so excited for her.... so proud of her.... but then I remember what it was like to have that monthly visit... I'm glad it's her and not me!  I just pray that I'm able to guide her to be the beautiful young woman that I just know she will be... but honestly, 8yo....she is still my baby.  I know she will always be my baby.... they both will be!!!

My S... he is doing fine.  His back is not giving him much grief which is wonderful!  He is still on sick leave from his other medical issue... which is driving him nuts.  He is stuck at home with me... not much to do but watch TV and baby our dog.  He doesn't have a hobby so this is a very tough time for him.  We were both struggling a couple of weeks ago... doing better now.  Communication is the core of any good marriage no matter if you decide to have spanking in your life or not.  Dd is definitely the way in which we believe that we need to live... but I'm thinking we probably won't  practice spanking any longer.  This makes me sad because I really want/need this, but I guess he doesn't want to.... and I guess that's that.  I wrote him an email and explained how much I wanted/needed maintenance/reassurance  spankings... that was a couple of weeks ago... I have decided that it's not worth our marriage to shove down his throat what he isn't interested in.   We still love each other... I am still submissive... and maybe someday we will get there. Life is a process...I guess I decided that if we aren't both into it then it isn't for us.  We'll figure it out... one day at a time!! ;o)

So anyway.... I guess that is all I have for today.... cept that I want to make sure that you all know that I've missed you and I'm hoping to catch up on everyone's posts!!

((hugs))

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  1. It's good to "see" you again Mikki! It sounds like overall things are going well...except the whole no-spanking thing. Have the two of you sat down together and really talked about it?

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  2. Hello, Mikki,
    Glad all is going well for you... and yes, 8yrs old is way too young for that! Gosh, I was 15 1/2 before any of that shenanigans!
    Bless her!

    It is a shame he hasn't embraced the concept; I am surprised that any man wouldn't, you know, power ego and all that...I always felt the "me Tarzan" was suppressed in men because the women were burning bras etc, and given the green light from his woman, a man would jump right back in.... but obviously I am wrong with that concept!!!
    Bless ya, hang on in there. It's better to be with a man you love that isn't a spanko, than a man you don't love who is!!!!
    And who knows, given his own time to think about it, without you (gently) pushing, he may eventually change his mind....
    xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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  3. Thanks Ms Grace... no... we haven't talked about it this time.. but in the past we have and every time he says he likes spanking me... then there is absolutely no follow through... and since I could let this drive me crazy, instead, I decided that I needed to just drop it for now. I don't know how to do this any other way without "topping from the bottom" and I'd rather not be spanked than to think that I'm pushing him around in the name of submissiveness..... but if you have any suggestions I'm all ears!! ((hugs))

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  4. Hmmm...would he read blog posts if you emailed them to him? I send stuff to Michael off and on. Sometimes it's because I think he'll find it interesting, other times it's because I'm hoping he'll get some ideas and sometimes it's because it explains something well. Anyway, it sounds like consistency is a problem, so perhaps looking around and finding something that speaks to that issue and then forwarding it on to him would get him thinking about it?

    To tell you the truth, if it was me, I'd also be tempted to just outright ask if spanking is going to be a part of things anymore or not. If he said no, I'd want to know why. And if he said yes, then I'd tell him how it feels when he's inconsistent. Actually, we've had a few of these discussions. For some reason Michael had it in his head that he was being nice to me by letting me off and it took awhile for him to understand that while I appreciated his desire to offer grace, that if he did so and didn't even communicate to me about it, that I was going to end up really upset and confused and not know what to think or how to feel. I *think* he understands that now, time will tell I suppose.

    Anyway, not really knowing all the ins and outs of your relationship and what works for the two of you in regard to communication, it makes it a bit hard to offer suggestions.

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  5. Daisychain... I totally agree...

    "It's better to be with a man you love that isn't a spanko, than a man you don't love who is!!!!"

    Absolutely!! I don't know if or when he will come around... but I do know that I can still work on being the best wife and mom that I can be.... even if I don't get a spanking when I fall short! ;-) ((hugs))

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  6. Welcome back, I was just thinking about you recently and wondering how you are doing. Glad things are going well. Figuring out this spanking thing is hard isn't it? Wish I had some advice, alas I do not, but wishing you tons of luck.

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    1. Thanks nice lady! Luck is definitely appreciated!((hugs))

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  7. Hey Mikki,
    8yo does seem young! But my baby is our apartment hunting at the moment so you can feel my pain! LOL! You're right they are your baby forever.

    Anyway I'm glad to see you back.

    PK

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    1. I'm still very jealous of your empty nest thing you guys have going on!! LOL ((hugs))

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  8. I agree with Daisychain better to be with a man you love.............

    Sometimes things just happen - wait and see.

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    1. Sunnygirl... Absolutely!! Thank you for your kind words! ((hugs))

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  9. Mikki,

    Glad to hear from you!

    Love,
    Kitty

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    1. Thank you.... it's so nice seeing everyone again!((hugs))

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  10. Hi Mikki...good to see you. I'm sorry about the no spanking thing. Lol...I know...I'm starting to "get it". It sounds like you have found your submissive place without it and as you said, in the end the health of your relationship is what matters...and it seems healthy. I do wonder though if getting back to work eventually will make a difference in his way of thinking. Don't know...you have a great attitude towards all of it.

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    1. Thank you Susie...it's all give and take and I am trying really hard to be patient. I think you are right that getting back to a regular schedule will do wonders for him! ((hugs))

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  11. Mikki, it was nice to hear that you and 'things' are ok. I don't think asking is 'topping from the bottom' and I don't think being clear about your deep and very real needs not being met is a conversation that you'll be able to avoid long term either. I hope when the time is right it brings you to a good place together. Sara

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    1. You are so right... thank you for the advise! We had a conversation last night.... check out todays post!! ;o) ((hugs))

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  12. Mikki, so glad to see you again! I think you have a loving way of looking at this, but be careful to bring him along and communicate what you are thinking rather than just shut down or stuff your feelings or needs. Our guys want to be our hero in ALL ways, and sometimes just have times of processing. Whatever happens, I know growth in your marriage will continue, with your compassionate and submissive attitude.

    Stormy

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    1. Oh... you are so right... I know he loves being my hero... I just don't understand why when we talk and he says that he does agree with everything that I'm saying and wanting and then nothing.... I know we will get there... I just want to make sure we get there together!! ;o) ((hugs))

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  13. Nice to see you back Mikki. Maybe in time he'll think more about it again. I agree with Grace that it could be a consistency thing and with Sara about a conversation about it all being inevitable. Time will tell so in the meantime, it's great that you can take a step back from it and go with the flow for now :)

    Dee x

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  14. Dee... thank you so much for your kind thoughts... nice to see you again too! I agree... we'll get there!! ;o) ((hugs))

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  15. Mikki: Glad you're back blogging and sorry you aren't getting the spankings you would like. If you read a lot of blogs, you know you're certainly not the Lone Ranger when it comes to not getting the spankings you'd like from her husband. But I wouldn't give up on it. Most men are savvy enough to know that their life is going to be better if their wife is happy. Maybe he'll eventually realize this is way to make you happy. Good luck.

    FD

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    1. Thank you FD, I know your right and things are getting better as we speak!! ;o)

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  16. So good to see you back blogging. Hang in there Miki.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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