Sunday, September 11, 2011
I Feel Momma Bear Emerging...
I was having a pretty nice day... went to church and had a wonderful sermon... ran a couple of errands, came home and started cleaning my room... mine and S's room... my drawers. I'm a hoarder when it comes to clothes. No... you can walk through my house and not know I hoard. My drawers are so full it's a dread to do laundry cuz I hate putting clothes away. So I cleaned out my drawers... I am feeling so much better. And then the announcement.
My son and the neighbor girl have been fighting lately. I can't really remember how long they have been bickering but it's been a while. I never have been able to get why. Today I heard and I am not happy... not at all! Seems at her birthday party last year, end of Sept, he was standing in the doorway and was talking to the six girls at the party. He was invited to the party but didn't stay the night like the girls. Ok... well... evidently the girls were taunting him to leave... claiming girl time. I get that. The part that I don't get is the need for this neighbor girl, who was sitting next to where he was standing, felt the need to reach out and pull his running pants down. Fortunately his tighty whities stayed on... but was humiliated to say the least. He was near 12yo at the time... she was turning 10... only child, doesn't do anything wrong, is one of the 3 people in their marriage.
My son never told anybody. It breaks my heart because we have a wonderful relationship where we talk, and talk and talk. He was so humiliated. I get that... a similar thing happened to me when I was in 3rd grade. I never told either. I understand. The part that I don't understand is that she told. She told her step dad. He finally told me and his dad today. Nearly a year later, evidently she told fairly quickly. Today the pimple popped and her mom and step dad cornered my son and asked him why he keeps fighting with their princess. He finally told and said it was because of what she did a year ago. Step dad laughed and said yeah, that was pretty funny... he and princess laughed together in front of my son. Mom asked him angrily what snow white could do to fix this... it happened a year ago...it's time to get over it.
Ok... I'm PISSED OFF!! Not at my son, I wish he would have told but I didn't so I can't be mad at him for doing the same thing. I'm really not even mad at spoiled brat because that is what she has been raised to be.. a brat.
It's the grown ups. I know they are scared that the friendship is on the line, because it is. They are upset because this means that their princess isn't perfect... contrary to their belief system. They are also upset because while we are neighbors, S and I are also their landlord. Yeah, they live in my house...and abuse my kid.... hhmm... it wouldn't be looking good for them if I weren't a Christian. As a Christian I don't have to be a doormat... but I do need to make sure that I deal with this appropriately... not really sure what that means yet.
The part that irritates is that if things were switched... they would have considered this assault... and rightly so... my kid would probably still be in juvenile hall.
What to do.... hhmmm.... what to do.... I'll let you know.... feel free to leave suggestions! I sure could use a couple!
**Picture by Mark Newman, thank you**